If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward his or her child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. It is not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse, a large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is because the children do not learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If you are not raised with coping skills, children are much too likely to act ‘inappropriately’ than if you have developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone gets the child that they deserve.