If caretakers have a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others; and it’s not just aggression that results from child abuse. A large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is that children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If a child is not raised with coping skills, they’re much more likely to act “inappropriately” than if they have developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone gets the child they deserve.