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                                  The End of Romantic Misogyny, Thanks Internet

                 Our western culture has lead us to believe that women in  monogamous relationships are superior, happier women, but as another sexual revolution rears its noble head; thoughts are changing. Not all women want to, or can, fit the mold of girlfriend or wife, that is why the transition of monogamy to free and open lifestyles is so significant. Authors Pantea Farvid and Virginia Baum help to sum up the negatives of institutional monogamy. Pointing out that the interests of men and capitalism are nursed by the existence of possessiveness, jealousy, and exclusion, all conveniently disguised as “romance.” Women will no longer  feel the need to justify their sexual desires and experiences with a committed romantic relationship. They can behave sexually and independently without the fear of the societal damnation that they have faced for centuries. Social media and dating services are a significant causal factor in the realization that sex and romance can be two different entities. The “techno-sexual” age has supplied women with the tools to liberate themselves from the romantic misogyny of monogamous relationships.

               There is no reason why a long-term monogamous relationship cannot be healthy and supportive to a woman. Despite the possibility to be an equal partnership, societal restraints often create a power dynamic that gives authority to the man. Theories often attribute this phenomena to old-world ideals that view women as property to be transferred from father to husband through marriage.  A woman could be tied down to a good man, or alone like a sad spinster. If they did not fall into one of those two scenarios they faced being slut-shamed and titled as promiscuous. Women have been pigeon holed in positions as girlfriends and wives, being seen as independent sexual individuals is a rarity.

These opinions are especially true within the realm of heterosexuality. Farvid and Baum hit the nail on the head once more  when they say “Marriage and, in more contemporary times, monogamy, have been constructed as the ideal way to have heterosexual relationships; the pinnacle of all heterosexual unions (Jackson and Scott, 2004; Robinson, 1997; Stelboum,1999) and the desired outcome of dating and relationships.” . Stevi Jackson and Sue Scott elaborate upon the reason why some women abstain from monogamy. Having a full-on romantic partner can be burdensome, it includes loss of individual identity as one transitions from individual to half-of-a-couple.Jackson and Scott also elaborate upon how it also means having to integrate said partner into an already formed social life, meeting friends and family and “making it work.” Some women prefer to reap the benefits of sexual activities without the hassle of a partnership.

           The increased traffic found on social media and dating services helps for those looking to do just that. According to the journal entry provided by the Review of General Psychology : Journal of Division 1, of the American Psychological Association, titled “Sexual Hookup Culture: A Review,” the prevalence of sex-orientated relationships has increased and the presence of slut-shaming is (slowly) becoming less pronounced. Tinder is an application designed to match up local singles, and has coined the title as the “hookup app.” Women who desire a sexual partner and nothing more, can swipe through dozens of profiles in minutes and find a reasonable suitor; they are in control. Not only does increased use of Tinder lead to higher levels of casual sex; but sex positive websites, Tumblr pages, and YouTube channels, all encourage safe-sexual exploration and liberation.

         This obsession with sex and sex positive content has lead to the success of internet oriented entities. For example, Laci Green is a famous YouTube personality, her website gives some insight on what exactly she does, “Promote a comprehensive model of sex education using technology.” TIME Magazine named her one of the “30 Most Influential People on the Internet” citing that “In an effort to provide a more approachable version of sex education, the YouTube star offers sisterly advice on everything from hookup culture to body positivity to BDSM.” Laci Green’s success can be attributed to the increased open-mindedness of younger generations and their fascination with the internet and sex. Her fame is symbolic of the correlation between compulsory internet use and acceptance of alternatives to traditional monogamy.

                   Open and unstructured relationships are becoming more popular, their convenience and lack of commitment is enticing to people of the modern age. According to a collaborated review found on the U.S. National Library of Medicine’s website,  “…these encounters often transpire without any promise of, or desire for, a more traditional romantic relationship. A review of the literature suggests that these encounters are becoming increasingly normative among adolescents and young adults in North America, representing a marked shift in openness and acceptance of uncommitted sex.” This transition is a powerful movement for the modern generation, and is akin to the sexual revolution of the “Swinging Sixties.” During that time, acceptance of pre-marital sex increased; during present times, acceptance of casual sex is also are rising.

The cause of the sexual liberation and counter-culture of the 1960’s is attributed to many factors; one in particular is increased media. Television made radical new, feminist ideas accessible to anyone in front of a TV screen. Today, anyone with a laptop or smart phone can watch a YouTube video about sex positivity or download Tinder and start swipin’. As Justin Garcia and other write within their piece titled “Sexual Hookup Culture: A Review.” a point about media’s new portrayel of casual sex, “The media suggest that uncommitted sex, or hookups, can be both physically and emotionally enjoyable and occur without ‘strings.’” Talking openly about sex can be uncomfortable for some, but through outlets found online, people can explore their sexual thoughts freely and comfortably. These opportunities are helping women to liberate themselves.

               Approval of casual sex allows women to feel more comfortable as sexual beings. Societal constructs have previously worked against those who lived outside of typical romantic scenarios, this is especially true when dealing with discrimination against members of the LGBTQ+ community as well as individuals in the sex-industry worldwide. Through the internet and media, accessing testimonials of sex-workers, experiences of LGBTQ+ people, and the sexcapades of independent women, has worked to normalize alternatives to heterosexual monogamy. In fact, it has done more than that. The existence of sex positive conversations taking place on the internet have given support to those with questions and in need of help they cannot find elsewhere. Media has done more than just attempt to normalize sexual behavior for women, it has attempted to normalize life for those typically cast out.

                 This movement away from the status-quo may be similar to movements seen in the past, but it is entirely new. The power of the internet is grandiose and impressive and has made many societal impacts. It affects Presidential elections, world relations, and yes, even complex thoughts on heterosexual monogamy. YouTube channels, dating apps, Facebook, and online discussion forums, all help to include varying versions of sex and romance. Inclusion is an important step in our progress as a forward-thinking society, it will not be achieved without the help of the internet.

Works Cited
 Farvid, Pantea, and Virginia Baum. “Casual Sex as ‘not a Natural Act’ and  Other Regimes of Truth about Heterosexuality.” Sage Journals. Feminism & Psychology, 18 Apr. 2013. Web.
 Garcia, Justin R., Chris Reiber, Sean G. Massey, and Ann M. Merriwether. “Sexual Hookup Culture: A Review.” Review of General Psychology : Journal of Division 1, of the American Psychological Association. U.S. National Library of Medicine, 01 June 2012. Web. 06 Nov. 2016.
Green, Laci. “Laci Green.” Laci Green. N.p., n.d. Web.
Jackson, Stevi, and Sue Scott. “The Personal Is Still Political: Heterosexuality, Feminism, and Monogamy.” Sage Journals. N.p., Feb. 2004. Web.

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